“Don’t you miss
having a life?”
“Umm.. I feel very much alive at the moment”
“Every woman’s
life is incomplete without marriage.”
(Too bored of
this topic already) “Okay”
“Don’t you want
kids? Your biological clock is ticking”
Now if I was half
as witty as Preity Zinta in Kal Ho Naa Ho, I would have retorted “Well, you
don’t need to get married to have children”, but instead I go:
“All this doesn’t
bother me. I love my freedom right now. It’s awesome”
This dialogue
of mine brings on such a compassionate “oh you poor thing” look which people
usually reserve for patients diagnosed with an incurable disease. Then this is
followed by a deep sigh which gives rise to a self-doubt of whether I truly
have a deadly disease I was unaware of. And some souls are so fascinated with
this biological clock (somehow I always picture it as something sparkly like a
gold watch), I feel like taking it out from its secret chamber, wrapping it in
glitter paper and gifting it to them.
.. Probably
write a note “Here! For you to scrutinize and stare at all day long. With
love.”
The society is
in some sort of denial when it comes to your happiness. Being happy when you
are unmarried is considered a myth. Being married for some time and still being
very much in love is considered another myth!
Before
marriage:
“You should get
married. Life is incomplete without marriage. You will be happy”
“But I am
happy!”
Society: “I
refuse to believe”
Early stage of
married life:
“Ok you need to
have children. Life is incomplete without children.”
“But we are
fine now”
Society: “I
refuse to believe”
Few years of
married life:
“I am so happy.
I have been blessed with the perfect husband. We share a very loving
relationship”
Society: ”Who’s
she kidding?”
I don’t really
get it.