Saturday, June 22, 2013

A New Desi Dream

So after years of contemplating on starting my own small little venture online for Indian apparel, my dream finally materialized nearly a week back. Being Desi is finally online. Whether the business would be a success or a failure is not known to me, but I just had to get it out of my system. That want to get out of my comfort zone, where everything is known and familiar, and strive for something even if I have no idea what the outcome would be. My family and I joined hands to make this dream come true and needless to say I am pretty excited, anxious, happy all at the same time. 

A special thanks goes to ALL my friends who liked my page and supported me in this venture, especially Abhinav Bhatt for helping me out with the logo. The response to the page has been overwhelming. A lot of likes are from young boys who I assume are more interested in the mannequin. Sigh. Anyway, she has been named Kalyani by yours truly because I just can't call her a 'dummy' or a 'mannequin'. I feel calling her as such would hurt her non existent feelings. 

Getting back to my dream, it would mean a lot to me if you guys could support my venture or suggest the page to your girl friends who are into online shopping.. or guy friends who are just interested at staring a cool looking mannequin (she IS pretty). This is the page: https://www.facebook.com/beingdesionline and here are some of the products:

Black and Pink Anarkali
Blue Anarkali
Color Block Saree

White and Blue Shimmer Chiffon Saree

Looking forward to interacting with you all there :) 

Sunday, June 02, 2013

Finally

I have been thinking about this for a long time now. A really long time. I have been inspired by women I know who have gone ahead with this and around this time last year I decided that I too would follow their footsteps soon. I wanted to sponsor a child. How soon? I wasn't sure. Why? Yes, I wanted to make a difference in some way or the other in a kid's life. Or it might be for selfish reasons too. For that happiness it brings me when I help someone - the feeling's priceless. I always had a soft corner for kids and last year too I involved myself in philanthropy keeping kids in mind. So I guess it was only natural that I would choose this path.

I was looking at World Vision's website recently and I just had this strong feeling that now it's the time to go ahead and do something that I wanted to for a long time. I contacted them and I was given prompt answers to all of my questions. I finally took the plunge and now I am sponsoring a sweet little Indian girl with the warmest smile ever. I hope to write letters to her. But since she cannot read or write English as of now, I am hoping that those employed at the organization would translate it to Telugu for her. Sponsorship is a long term commitment. There are no agreements as such and you can stop whenever you want to but I intend to sponsor her till she's educated properly and can fend for herself. 

The whole point of writing this post is not to boast about what I did. I am hoping someone or the other would find some inspiration from this post and take steps to ensure a better future for kids in India. You can go to World Vision India and do your bit today. 

I would also like to dedicate this post to a wonderful group of people I met online on FB - the IndiBlogeshwaris. Akanksha introduced me to this group of women bloggers and I can't help gush about how enthusiastic and fun they are. These ladies are always ready to share their everyday life experiences (making you admire them - the things they do and how they deal with problems), applaud you when you have done something credible, wipe away your tears when you are down in the dumps and crack the most insane jokes which make you smile even if you are all cranky or depressed. They have inspired me in so many ways. I don't get to comment on posts as much as I want to but I do tend to read them all ardently. They are turning one today and what more can I do than dedicate such a post to an inspiring group of zealous people. Happy 1st anniversary IndiBlogeshwaris! You people are truly the ultimate rockstars.


Saturday, May 18, 2013

Travel Therapy


I recently made a short trip to Dubai. It was long overdue because I was getting fed up with the same ol’ routine and desperately needed some change. If you have been working way too hard (even during weekends) you might understand the need to get away and have that much needed fun. So off I went to Dubai to my sister’s place. 

When I go traveling I always make it a point to stay away from the Internet, online social networking and such. I’m online most of the time no thanks to my work so I take my breaks pretty seriously and think of it as a break from the virtual life as well. It always helps. Social networking can turn very addictive, and I don’t want any such sort of addictions while I am on vacation at least.

It’s kind of weird (in a good way) that always after traveling or during the course of a travel, I get a fresh perspective over things that were bugging me till then. I learn to relax and realize that I was seriously over-thinking and over-stressing myself with unimportant things. I am a Virgo to the core, I fret about silly things, go crazy over them and make others go crazy too in the process. So this is something that absolutely works for me. It calms me down, gives me a peace of mind, I function better.

And I don’t mean traveling to places that you travel often. I don’t mean traveling to that nearby location which is easily accessible or which follows a culture similar to yours. Catch a plane, go to a place which is completely different from the one you are residing in right now and see the change it brings to you. You get to experience different things this way, your world opens up and you realize there’s so much more out there than what you think. It’s a complete change and changes make me happy. A time tabled life dries me down and I completely believe that change should be the only constant in your life. 

I now intend on traveling every year to some place or the other. Last year it was Bahrain, this year it was Dubai, next year I have planned something more and I am hoping it all materializes. 'Coz I realized traveling has a certain magic to it. It’s a therapy. The best that I can recommend. 

Thursday, April 04, 2013

Time to Change? Maybe Not

How many times have you heard people tell you to change certain aspects of your behavior? Especially when you have made them angry or told them the truth? I have been on the receiving end many a times where people have asked me to change.

"Be more tactful. Control your words"

This was a dialogue I received when I gave an opinion to someone honestly. Since tact is not one of my strong traits, I prefer to shut up. Up comes the next dialogue:

"Don't be silent when I am talking to you. This is not the way you deal confrontations. Speak up!"

It is a never ending loop. You sometimes wonder if people ever keep track of what they say because you hear such contradictory statements from them from time to time.

When something like a divorce happens, you start thinking about where you have gone wrong and try to take in advice from others on how to deal with relationships more efficiently. The thought process was "they have had a long marriage, they might be knowing the secret" so I would sincerely listen to advice given to me by the older folks on what changes I needed to make in my life to ensure a successful relationship.

An advice I got when my divorce proceedings were on:

"The husband should always be the dominating one in a relationship, the girl should ALWAYS keep quiet no matter how angry she is."

I would nod my head and soak in all the advice thinking she's an elderly woman, she must be knowing the ways of life and how to handle relationships. At a vulnerable point in your life, you even start believing such BS. Then I hear her cussing her husband as if there's no tomorrow.

Another lady told me "if you speak nicely you can get your way with anyone". Then you hear her talking harshly and ordering around just about anyone in her vicinity to get her way. I think a more proper advice from her would have been "if by talking nicely at first they don't listen to you, then scare the hell out of them".

Actions do speak louder than words. You can advise just about anyone to change. Maybe you're asking them to change for your own selfish needs or maybe it's for genuine reasons or maybe you just want to dish out advice that is politically correct even if it's practically impossible to do. I mean when someone advises you to take a deep breathe and count till 100 when you're angry -- does anyone really do that? After trying to rectify myself based on feedback from people, I realized I am getting nowhere. It gets difficult to understand who really means what they say and who don't. Sometimes you can't help but wonder if it's really you who need to change or them.

So for now, all changes are on hold. I am happy being me and it's going to be that way for a long time to come. Much easier this way ;) 

Thursday, February 07, 2013

10 Random Facts.. About Me!

I haven't done a tag in a looooong time. When I saw this tag on someone's blog, I just couldn't resist taking it up. Another excuse is that it's time for me to blog again and I don't know what to write about. Tags make it so much easier. Not facing the dreaded writer's block, but simply not getting the time to think out a topic and write convincingly about it. What better than a tag to help you out in such a situation right? So here goes...
  1. I love surprising people with gifts. It's so worth it to see happy faces in the end, so I don't mind splurging a bit when it comes to gifts. My new year gifts to my near and dear ones this time around included a Samsung Galaxy phone, a Samsung Galaxy tab among other things. Even though I was mildly tempted to keep those goodies for myself, good sense prevailed at the right time! Mom says I select gifts most apt for each person but this was not always the case. I remember in college I went ahead and purchased a big lamp (of all things) with hearts, stars and a teddy bear on it for my bf back then. Everything that symbolizes romanticism was ON that lamp. It was hideous but I purchased it just for the hearts and the stars and to convey the message across :P The bf was totally embarrassed (needless to say) and he tucked it away in his cupboard or someplace where no one can see it. A gift gone totally wrong! Now I just laugh when I think of those times. 
  2. I am not much of a people's person. I am nice and cordial to everyone I meet but I am very selective when it comes to who I choose to get close to. A lot of people have gone outright mad at me for this but then that's the way I am.
  3. I love eating burger with rice! Or rice with burger :D Not the cutlet like burgers you get here in Kerala but the actual ones. My sister got me two packets of those when she came down from Dubai and I finished them all within 2 weeks. And I am left craving for more :(
  4. I go through these phases where I get all excited about a new thing I am about to do. Change is the only constant for me. There was a phase where I wanted to learn all those exotic dishes and I promised myself I would try out something new every weekend. Well, that phase surely got over a long time back, or let's say it got over even before it began :) 
  5. I also go through these phases where I start complaining a lot! But near and dear ones have adapted to that now by keeping quiet & ignoring me mostly like how parents patiently wait for their kids to finish throwing tantrums. 
  6. I & my sis have hardly used public transport! We have always been chauffeured in a car to places we wanted to go to. In college I felt incredibly out of place because of this because no one else ever arrived in a car! It used to embarrass me. My parents especially my mom was super protective and terrified of us using the public transport in spite of knowing that there are many people out there who use it. It was a relief when I started using the college bus and I started to travel like the rest of them did. Because of this, I am very inept when it comes to understanding or using any public transport till date. And I'm not proud to say this :( 
  7. I am not too fond of dull weather or extremely rainy days. Especially in Kerala. Where rain is equivalent to power cuts. I prefer the warm, sunny days. Not too humid. You get the picture. 
  8. Till I was 25 I never really had any career ambitions as such. I never understood about being passionate about your work. I am a late bloomer that way. Now I simply love what I do and I feel it is so necessary to feel that way about your work, because think about it -- you are going to spend more than half of your life working. If you don't like what you do, that's such a waste of life right?
  9. Till I was 20 I had a major eating disorder as in I was never hungry. I used to go to college after drinking just a glass of milk, used to skip lunch, ate very little food when I came back and that was it. Probably explains why I was size zero then :P And now I just can't get enough of food. Guess I am making up for all those lost years.
  10. I think a lottttt ! I am the female version of Aamir Khan who thinks a dozen times before saying or doing anything. I get crazy when I think too much and in the process make others crazy too -- it's my speciality :D
I would like to tag anyone who would like to take up this tag! Especially Amith, Abhinav, Annie and Madhuri who I want to know more about :)