Tuesday, June 05, 2012

Happy Zone

Dhanya one year back:

1. Weighed a measly 44 kilos. Culprits: depression, loss of appetite and insomnia.
2. Felt more or less like a zombie.
3. Used to stare into open space for hours on end wondering where her life is going to head.
4. No job. Lack of self-confidence.
5. Used to think "why does everything bad only happen to me?".
6. Mentally torn & humiliated after apologizing to people even if I was not at fault.
7. Used to get angry easily.

... Basically I used to think my life is over. Those who have been through that phase in a relationship would be able to understand this more than anyone else. It's so easy to say "get over it" but the breaking of a marriage is tough for people like me -- who always used to believe marriages are forever. But overcome I did!

Dhanya now:

1. I'm not going to reveal how much I weigh now :P But yeah, I am MUCH healthier, wealthier & wiser. Reasons: Happiness (yes, just that).
2. Never felt more livelier and enthusiastic about living life before.
3. I have more of a clue where my life is heading. I know now that there's no dead end :)
4. Two jobs. Both which I love. And which earns me well. What more can I ask for in the professional front?
5. Now I think "everything that happens, happens for the best".
6. I realize you don't have to apologize to anyone for being the person you are. You just have to surround yourself with the right kind of people who will understand you exactly for the way you are.
7. Angry? Whazzat? :D

So all those who are going through a bad phase. Hang in there! There's always ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel. Just remember it's not your fault and that in a relationship it takes two to tango. If you tried your best to make it work, then hats off to you and your commitment. It's very difficult to find people who are willing to communicate and sort things out in a relationship, so be pleased that you are in that clan of mature people who value relationships. 

20 comments:

  1. Im in that phase which you were in a year back.. so i will just reassure myself that i will be fine and someday i will look back with a smile!

    Thanks for this post! :)

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  2. So much has happened in your life in the last 1 year, Dhanya, but i am glad that you are a changed person ( both in terms of weight and ...). You are a lesson to many people. Seriously. I too am going through a very difficult phase in life. No, not in terms of relationship, but on professional front. I quit a very well paid and secure job in Bahrain and now, i am all by myself. Opened my business 7 months back and its going through its struggling phase. Things are difficult and i am tempted to quit. But something keeps me going. Plus, a lot of people, esp my parents think i am really a big loser. I cant explain whats it to chase a dream, and life is much more than just a 9-6, well paid job. i even thought of suicide, and how good it would be to end life and all the sufferings. But every time i think suicide, a picture of all the people who keep labeling me a loser pop before me and i feel the urge to prove them wrong. A very strong urge to prove people wrong. I am going to go all the way and never give up on life. Never. And then i read this and feel a positive energy shroud me. Life always tests people and those you come out victorious are the ones who rule the world. Keep going Dhanya, Keep faith in life. I am sure theres something very positive in store for you, when you look back few years from now. Regards,

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  3. Hope my comment is not lost. Just clicked something and it went blank.:(, wanna just say, you rock. Too lazy to repeat what i wrote early, but wish you all the best.

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  4. Hey Dhanya... nice post.
    Life is a continuous process with ups and down. What we want is just a +ve Hope. And as you said "There's always ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel."
    Keep Posting. :)
    Thanks,

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  5. Mrutyunjay9:36 PM

    44 Kgs ... !!! .. what were you doing ... aspiring to get gold in feather weight category in Olympics. Hain ??

    okay! .. randomness & jokes apart! ...

    Happy for you !! :)
    Not much of a believer in God but whatever brings comfort to your heart hope "She" blesses you in abundance. Amen!

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  6. Dhans I soooo agree with you. Everyone goes through that horrible depressing phase. But it's just a matter of time before life gets better. For some it takes longer than others. But when things do change it's awesome.

    Glad that you're at a much better place then you were. God willing things only get better.

    XOXO

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  7. Wow.. nice to hear from you Dhanya!! You can find your happiness only in one person.. and that is YOU. Keep going you girl!!

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  8. I know it takes a lot of courage to come out of a bad relationship. But I am glad that you have become a better person and not a bitter person after it. Yo Girl! :)

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  9. well healthier and WEALTHIER is a good thing then :) congrats


    Bikram's

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  10. Anonymous12:45 PM

    Been thru both the phases and completely agree with you.. There is always a tomorrow and a better one...

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  11. I am sure i commented yesterday

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  12. Bhanu3:33 PM

    Remember Elizabeth Gilbert, If everything disastrous is in the past..whats to worry about future.
    This one gave me a lot of conf wen i am so depressed abt my life.
    Good Going Dhanya.

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  13. All the very best, Dhanya...
    May U keep finding happiness in whatever U do...
    Keep moving on... God blesses :))

    BTW, Do u still watch "Heyllo Hi Bye Bye"?? Itij too machh :D

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  14. What matters is that you are happy. And I am soo glad that you are happier now Dhanya!!
    The aaj ki Dhanya seems like she is living life to the fullest!!

    It is amazing how you pulled yourself through all this. You sure do provide hope for all those people bound by people who don't even matter!

    -Harini

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  15. Hi-Five!!

    It takes a lot of courage to come out of a relationship, even if you know it is never going to work, for any of the people involved.

    You're such a sweet soul, you didn't deserve all that crap, which happened to you in the first place. But anyhow, it might have made you, who you are today. It might have been responsible for making you a strong woman, who is ready to face any hardship which comes her way, with a smile!

    So glad that it is all over, and life is a fairytale again :) Hope to see you smiling, and happy, today and forever. You deserve every bit of it!

    Love and Hugs
    Akanksha

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  16. I completely agree with u...there surely is light at the end of the tunnel..Keep the faith up!! Keep Going!!

    You may like:
    http://shailkathuria.blogspot.in/2010/10/keep-going.html
    http://shailkathuria.blogspot.in/2010/04/looking-out-of-my-window-yesterday.html

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  17. Dear ZB sir,

    Life is one roller-coaster ride on the giant wheel. I have also been in that situation of complete hopelessness. It is very difficult to live, when we cannot see beyond the present painful situation. But destiny is written every second we are alive. Every single moment is an opportunity to re-write those pages which are drenched in the ink of sweat, toil and hard work. It is in those weakest times, our greatest strengths are revealed to us. There will be a glimpse of light in that damned darkness.

    When we find out where it leads, that will be the day of glorious beginning to greatness. It is very important to forget and ignore that push which wants us to immediately react to the situation. Instead, when we focus only on the technical aspect of the present moment, the job of proving our critics wrong gets done on its own. Sir, that will be the best revenge ever! I am with you. God bless you.

    Sincerely,
    kannan.

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  18. Anonymous2:17 PM

    Helped me a lot, just what I was searching for :)

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  19. Pulkit2:03 AM

    extremely motivational. Just as I always say, ur an inspiration for many, a poster girl for "strong independent yet cultured and caring, The Great Indian Women" :)

    god bless u

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