Monday, August 08, 2011

Creativity and Being A Joru Ka Ghulam



I already had a couple of peacock feather photographs which were taken from home. My mom is a huge peacock feather fan. So am I! :D She keeps purchasing them from Guruvayoor whenever she makes a visit. I never really knew what to do with these pictures. Was lazing around this weekend, and as a result, a pair of peacock shoes were born. I already had the layout for the shoes and then I did some work on Photoshop with the pictures to create a one-of-a-kind design. I would wear them, but then my choice has always been atrocious in some cases! :)



Yes, whenever I get some spare time this is what I like to do. Somehow cooking still fails to allure me, and this is what I end up doing instead of learning new recipes and stuff. Don't get me wrong, I love to try out new recipes if all the ingredients are available. But truth be told, I'm just not passionate about cooking. And I'm glad to know that I'm not the one alone in all this. I know of a couple where the lady hates to cook and she just cooks a single meal in the morning which suffices for lunch and dinner. What does she do the rest of the time? She creates the most amazing paintings, learns violin with her husband, and does almost everything which satisfies her creative self. I'm dead sure she wouldn't have found time for all this if it wasn't for her husband's support. Imagine what would have happened if she landed up with a husband who would blast her whenever she started to paint, or demean her by saying such things weren't important. This lady's husband not only understands her passion but even shares some of her interests. They take classes together and do things together which I feel is a MUST in any relationship. Which brings me to a question. What would you call such a husband who supports his wife in her likes? A 'Jhoru Ka Ghulam' (wife's slave) or a 'True Life Partner'?

Talking about Jhoru Ka Ghulam, the following videos are interesting -



In this video, the guy talks about how he's considered as the good son when he takes care of his parent's wishes. He's considered as a good brother, if he takes care of his sister's or brother's needs. But why is he considered as a Jhoru Ka Ghulam when he takes care of his wife's needs?

'Diya aur bati hum' has released two more interesting promos -





What's your take on being a Jhoru Ka Ghulam and do you think it is given more importance than necessary?

18 comments:

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Dhanya, the design is too good..i loved it:)

Gayathri Ramdas Sreekanth said...

Wow the shoes are brilliant !! Luvvddd it..I would buy them. If there are peacock feather earrings, why not shoes! And if you find passion in that, why not? To each his own.

Joru ka Ghulam; I think we need more such guys with both spouses working. Brings around the standard question, why only women have to indulge in household work ? Good to see Hindi serials are moving to slightly diff subjects ie. if the main story is in line with the promos.

yamini meduri said...

He is definitely a true partner :)

Dhanya....i love those shoes yaar...can i have them please..i love them so much..!!!

Y dont u make it ur profession and turn it into a busines...its an awesome work :)

Maryam A. said...

Woooow.

Soniya said...

Hello Dhanya, I am a somewhat recent reader of your blogs. Your posts are easy reads, at the same time thought provoking, esp this one...

☆ Rià ღ said...

Nice design.

simi menon said...

The design is nice, i wish it was on a different model of shoe ! it wud be awesome then !

I am totally with you when you say there is no passion for cooking ! I dislike it with a passion ! the sad part is that i love food :)

And Jhoru ka Ghulam I am so sad that the term is still used is still there ! Antiquated

Prasanna Rao said...

I just cant understand this attitude of some guys. Whenever there is some kind of an argument between me and any member of my in-laws family(which is very rare), my husband remains silent. When I ask him why he does not support me, even when I am right, he says if he supports me in front of his family then they will think that within few years he forgot his family and is supporting his wife... I get so angry..Grrrrr.. What about my feelings? My feelings do not count then?

Dhanya said...

Being Pramoda - Thank you :) :)

Gaya - Thanks!!! :) I love everything peacock -- I'm looking for those perfect pair of peacock earrings actually. I agree with everything you have to say abt JKG, Gaya :) I'm not sure what 'Diya aur baati hum' is all about. Dunno if it's a serial or a reality show or something else altogether. Will have to wait and find out..

Dhanya said...

Yamini - Haha! Sure you can have them :) Let me get 'em out in production first ;) Thank you soooo much!

Maryam A. - Wooow for the shoes or the post? :D

Dhanya said...

Soniya - That's so sweet :) Thank you! Welcome to my world and hope you keep visiting :) :)

Ria - Thank you :)

Dhanya said...

Simi - Thanks for the constructive criticism! I will see if I can use the design on a different model. Can work on this only on the weekend, otherwise I will just end up all flustered after my day job. The term Joru Ka Ghulam is still used, and many guys hate being called that! :) I can understand why -- no one wants to be anyone's slave. But being nice to one's wife shouldn't be given such a demeaning term in the first place.

Dhanya said...

Prasanna - Oh dear, you sound really angry. Show him the 'Diyaa aur baati hum' promos ;) Jokes apart, best thing to do is just sit down with him and tell him nicely how much you get hurt when you don't support him and stuff. If he's understanding enough, he'll get it :) Maybe he thinks that they will call him a JKG.. make him understand that it's just a lot of hogwash. By taking your side and supporting you, he has only your love to gain. Parents and family toh already love him unconditionally na ;) They will forgive him even if he takes your side for once :D Tell that to him! Take care, and stay happy :)

Richa said...

I am scared of peacock feathers. yes I am. I guess it is the only thing that freaks me out. It does to me what lizards to do people. #facepalm

and joru ka ghulam,i wonder if that specie really exists.

Dhanya said...

Lol Richa! :D :D

Nidz said...

y husband is very caring at times ppl tell him Joru ka Gulam and he happily says If caring is bring Jaru then yes I m .. :)

Nice shoe design

Pesto Sauce said...

There was a time when girls were taught to abide by wishes of elders and husband, now my Mom tells me to be Joru ka Ghulam!!

Dhanya said...

Glad to hear that Nidz :) Have a very happy married life. Xoxo :)

Pesto - Hahaha... you don't have to follow orders from ur wife :) just that you shouldn't have that feeling inside that you're being a Joru Ka Ghulam when you are taking care of your wife's needs :)