Thursday, December 20, 2007

Confused Desis

I just watched 'The Namesake'. Yes, it got released a long time back. But I was able to lay my hands on the 'non-pirated' VCD version only recently. It's a storyline all of us are familiar with. But something about the execution of the film made it different from the other movies of the same genre.

The movie focuses primarily on life of NRIs. How much they have to adjust to their surroundings. The loneliness and the quiet life they have to face after living a much spirited one in their homeland. Of course, all this is applicable to only those who have been born and brought up in India. The others are already used to the abundance of freedom and for them less noise and decreased interruptions are always welcome.

Being brought up here, I can identify with some of the situations depicted in the movie. I need my personal space. It can be barged upon.. but only upto a limit. In contrast, my cousins don't need that space. I don't think they even have one!! You are always welcome anytime to disturb them from whatever they are doing. They won't even show the slightest bit of irritation.

But how much freedom should a parent give to their child ? In India, there are loads of people to run behind you making sure you get back home on time, you eat your food on time, to make sure you do all the right things at the right time. Outside, that extra attention isn't there. Your parents do keep a watch. But a child being influenced by his/her surroundings, is bound to get carried away by a lifestyle completely different from theirs. This makes it more tough for NRI parents. They have to make sure they give enough freedom to their kids. But still they have to curb it so that their children won't get uncontrollable in the future.

Another thing that Desis get a little paranoid about are their names. 'Kumaran' becomes 'Kumar' , 'Srinivasan' becomes 'Srinivas'. This is only in the middle-east. In the Western countries, 'Nikhil' becomes 'Nick', 'Jasmit' becomes 'Jazz'. Anything to fit in.

We live such confused lives. We are the Non-Reliable Indians. Three cheers to us! :-)

I am thinking of changing my name too. Diana maybe ? ;)